Slap yourself. Once ; maybe twice. Does it hurt ? Yes ?

But does it anger you ? Do you feel insulted ? Did you cry by yourself ? Nopes. Just the burning sensation. That sensation will pass.Some would even go further and say that it was actually fun.

Now changing the situation and the perspective – What happens if someone else slaps you ?

What is the difference ?

The emotions in us are not a clear biological signal from outside. Detaching from the situation , from people in context and the way you look at the whole scenario makes a big difference.

It is the emotions that torture you. It is never the physical circumstances. Detaching is the only way forward.